"If it doesn't open, it's not your door."

I've had this quote as the screensaver on my phone for over a year now because every time I check my phone (which is pretty often), it reminds me that many things in life are out of my control.

As a perfectionist, I do need to remind myself of that regularly.

We all want things in life to turn out a certain way... OUR way... the way we think will bring us the most joy, pleasure, success, wealth, health ___________ (fill in the blank). Sometimes we REALLY think a certain situation is the best for us. It could be a job opportunity. A relationship. A certain type of diet. A house you want to buy. A particular workout program. All of these things represent possible doors that can lead to a future that you envision for yourself.

But somehow some of those things do not work out as you wanted. They don't go your way. 

This week I started flying lessons. No, not learning how to fly a plane. Trust me, I come dangerously close to knocking off the side mirrors on my car when pulling in and out of the garage…I certainly shouldn’t be flying planes.

What I mean is that I am learning how to fly by jumping.

Let me explain.

What does 2017 hold in store for you? Do you have goals and desires that have been simmering under the surface for awhile? Will this be THE year that you lose weight? Get healthier? Get in shape? Run a marathon?

Are you making New Year's resolutions?

Are you telling yourself things like: "THIS is the year I'm going to eat better and get fit."

Making resolutions when a new year begins may seem to be motivating, but the trouble is that many people abandon those resolutions as soon as a slip-up or setback happens. The fact of the matter is that slip-ups and setbacks ALWAYS happen. Perfection with diet and fitness (or anything) is not possible.